Another day, another pair of leggings and a big old baggy top. But this was also the time when I had endless parcels arriving. The irony? I knew I wanted to shop smarter, I knew I wanted to buy less fast fashion, and yet here I was, justifying another order to my partner and sending almost everything back.

The truth was, I had gained weight over the pandemic — and let me be clear, there’s nothing wrong with that. But for me, it fed into this feeling I had… like I didn’t recognise my body. Nothing fit. On top of that, I was now in my early thirties, and my dress-sense just didn’t feel like me anymore. And if we’re being really honest, maybe even in my late twenties, pre-pandemic, I’d felt the same — I just didn’t know myself well enough then to understand what I wanted to say, or who I wanted to be within myself.

So here was the problem… I had a full wardrobe of clothes, plus large bags tucked away in other storage spaces, yet absolutely nothing to wear. Getting dressed would usually spiral into a panic attack, cancelled plans, or a bad migraine from the stress. That may sound extreme to some, but as someone who’s always loved clothes, it wasn’t always this way. Fashion had always been a huge form of self-expression for me — so losing that connection felt like I didn’t know myself anymore.

Fast forward to now

I love my wardrobe. Getting dressed feels exciting, like I get to play dress-up in my own wardrobe, and truth be told, I’ve never felt more like myself. The impact has been huge. I like myself — groundbreaking, right? But truly, my confidence is finally at a good level, and I feel aligned with who I am.

The big revelation?

And after sharing this story with friends, here’s the big revelation I discovered… everyone’s style changes because we all change as people. This feeling, as we transition into new phases of our lives, seems almost universal. But we don’t talk about it. Instead, we struggle through — buying more things we don’t need, spending far too much time and energy trying to recreate how we used to feel, or copying influencers online because it seems like the best shortcut. I know, because I tried it all in my search to find myself again.

That’s why I set out to create my styling offering, to share my process for sourcing and building outfits. I don’t fit neatly into one style or niche box — and that’s okay. I used to try to lean into the aesthetics I thought I should because I have tattoos, but I didn’t love much of it on me. Where I did find my joy was in runways and editorials — this dark-ethereal world of texture and storytelling. I found pride in curating pieces that bring back the magic, like the feeling I had as a child raiding my great-grandmother’s big walnut wardrobe.

This is also why I believe so deeply in the magic of pre-loved fashion — finding beautiful, well-made, timeless pieces I’ll own for decades. I was raised in charity shops and boot fairs, and I’ll happily deep-dive into the depths of eBay to find the perfect piece. I know it’s not always easy, and I understand the false allure of fast fashion. But to me, fast fashion is the road to wardrobe indecisiveness, poor quality, and a money pit that still doesn’t solve your problems — despite all the promises from marketing.

So if you’re up for the journey, let’s start exploring your style. I’ll share as much knowledge as I can to help you along the way x